Seriously, if a woman makes it clear she is not interested and you continue to push, it is not sweet! It is intrusive, manipulative, and creepy!" —u/foulfitnoob “That irks me every time. I had a friend that I told straight up that if the person you’re dating isn’t making an effort to actively work on themselves, don’t continue the relationship, especially if this person usually brings down your entire mood.” —u/Sexy_Znerd “Even if an affair did turn into love it’s not ok to damage someone else for your good time. To extort benefits from your spouse while you disrespect them. To take away their ability to make good decisions about their life based on the truth.” —u/NotAlwaysObvious It was hard work. I came from a shouting household, and if you didn’t shout, you were weak. That was the message I absorbed. So when we disagreed the first time, I started shouting, and then he turned around out the door and went for a walk. I was puzzled, as that had never happened before. When he came back, he explained that he never yells and fights, he learned to peacefully talk things out — which says a lot since he came from foster care and a lot of yelling. So I figured if he could do that I could. Then I realized I yelled because I felt powerless, and promised to work on that. Conflict resolution skills are one of the best things you can learn." —u/Immediate-Pool-4391 “I had a stalker. It is not cute. It is not love. I was AFRAID/TERRIFIED that I would see him outside of my house one day or come home and find him telling my parents he is my boyfriend and how in love we are.” —u/Daughterofthemoooon “I just want to add that not only should forgiveness be earned, but trust and respect as well. Obviously, there are plenty of people out there who have no problem doing and saying things that disrespect you, ignoring your boundaries, and so on. Building trust/respect is far easier when you don’t know the person from the start. Then if they do or even say something that would cause your trust/respect for them to be broken, it’s much, much harder to gain it back.” —u/lingering_Sionnach Similar to how a customer can’t just throw hot coffee back onto a barista, sex workers should expect the same courtesy of physical respect/safety from their customers." —u/sadcoffee “It sets the wrong message to men, too. They view the most important value they can bring to the relationship as financial stability. This makes ‘No, I am not interested’ hard to hear when the only value you think you bring to the table is money. ‘But why wouldn’t she be interested??? I have a job! I can support both of us!’ Instead, we should be working to ensure we are complimenting boys/men on the same traits we admire in women: emotional regulation, social skills, forming healthy boundaries, respecting someone else’s boundaries, creativity, humor, ability to care for oneself and one’s environment, etc.” —u/sadcoffee —u/lacsquirt
