“It got better when my husband and I decided that at age 16, he would work part time so he could start taking financial responsibility, and that seemed to give him a reality check as we cut our support on his perks.” “Also, if the grandparents are so upset, they can pay for his upgrades and luxuries.” “However, you have already tried taking privileges away by making him work and not supporting him (edit: his perks). I don’t think monetary punishment is going to work anymore; you need a new solution. I would try a family therapist to see what is at the bottom of his relationship with money and what you can do to change it.” “It is completely BS to tell the son that he has a financial responsibility to have to work for everything, and not giving him an allowance like normal teenagers who should be in school and focus on their education — not working a shitty part-time job that doesn’t benefit his career. All of this while you constantly throw around luxuries like multi-thousand dollar vacations for your employees.”