—u/goodlostbonding “The fact that he’s shoving you into the closet for any reason is unacceptable, but his chosen reason is sus as f***. My theory is that he told some lie about you that he’s trying not to let out of the bag. It’s the only thing I can think of.” —u/karigan_g “He sounds like he has some really weird-ass insecurities going on there. Definitely needs therapy, and if you discuss this with him again and he doesn’t change from the discussion, then you should most definitely consider ending things.” —u/clumsy_mage “This sounds hella toxic. And weird that someone who’s not straight is gatekeeping this? Throw him under the bus and tell your friends. But please be safe.” —u/LittleFerretArt —u/Psychological_Buy_26 —u/MuirDragonne “I’d totally throw the BF under the bus. Because if he’s doing st like that to his own partner, while this group of friends head up LGBTQ+ clubs and st, they deserve to know who they’re associating with — someone who’s forcing someone into the closet against their will and gatekeeping being queer. F*** that dude.” —u/Sara-dot-Averything —u/reallybadspeeller —u/kimberley1312 “What the fuck? Maybe take one of the group that you know best and trust well to the side and tell them what you boyfriend is doing and that you are not in fact straight and cis. Ask them for help and advice? In the worst case scenario, you have to be prepared to leave your boyfriend though. He’s being really shitty about your whole identity, and that’s just not okay to the point that you might want to get out.” —u/UnspecifiedBat
